Difficulty with sexual intimacy?

In spite of the wide availability of sexual information online, problems with sexual intimacy are as common as ever. Sexual problems affect people at all ages and stages of life. The explosion of access to pornography and other sexually explicit material has given people highly unrealistic expectations of sexuality. Porn is to real-life sexuality as “The Fast and the Furious” is to real-life driving! With lots of conflicting information, it can be hard to separate fact from fiction about sexual issues.

Sexual problems are often a shameful secret. People are reluctant to discuss sexual issues with friends, family or perhaps even healthcare providers. Many healthcare providers are themselves uncomfortable or lack the specific expertise to address sexual issues.

Please don’t let shame, guilt or embarrassment prevent you from seeking help. You deserve to have a healthy, vital sexuality that affirms and enriches your relationship.

Sex therapy can help with issues such as:

  • low sexual desire or mismatched desire
  • sexual intimacy after an affair
  • erectile dysfunction (ED)
  • premature or delayed ejaculation
  • painful intercourse
  • managing complications from infertility or cancer treatment
  • general dissatisfaction and lack of pleasure

Sex therapy is for available for all adults—at any age, any relationship status and any sexual orientation.  Please contact me to start your journey.

What to expect

First, sex therapy is a talk therapy. Sexual contact between the therapist and client is strictly forbidden. There is no nudity or physical examination. You will never be asked to demonstrate any sexual behaviour in session.

Sexual issues are very personal and can be awkward to talk about. Your issues will be handled with sensitivity and privacy at all times. Talking about it is the first step to improvement. Waiting and hoping is not a viable strategy for change! I offer a non-judgemental place to discuss your issues and concerns frankly.

I work collaboratively with other healthcare providers (doctors, pharmacist or pelvic floor physiotherapist, etc.) to provide holistic care and ensure lasting change. You may be invited to make an appointment for an examination with one of these professionals. This is at your discretion and is always your choice.

We will discuss your sexual difficulties including history of the problem, your relationship history, and your sexual history. If you have a partner, therapy is most likely to be successful if your partner attends sessions with you. Even if it is “your issue”, your partner is your most valuable resource for solving sexual problems. Sex therapy will help you overcome any blocks to functioning as an intimate team.

You will be given exercises to complete at home in private. I may suggest books, videos or websites as part of your sex education and therapy. We will talk about your results, and together refine a program to get the results you want.

Sexual problems and relationship problems are often intertwined. It can be difficult, if not impossible, to tease out cause and effect. Sex therapy is integrated into all couple therapy for a comprehensive approach to both sexual issues and general relationship issues.

Please don’t settle for an unsatisfying sexual relationship. Real and lasting change is possible. Contact me to book an appointment or for more information.